My Rituals

September 20, 2017

I am not a woman of scheduling or "orderly" anything. Let that be known.


That said, I have tried to have some order in my life as of late, seeing as my life was in total disarray prior to attempting to mush everything into one organized mush of a schedule. But, I created mini rituals for myself so that the feeling of being truly "centered" would reverberate through my life and enhance my living. So far, it rings true to my hypothesis. 


I am not a woman of scheduling. I am, however, a woman of trial and error. What has worked for me may work for you, if you too feel like a lazy mare where the thought of even getting out of bed feels like a task. Let me tell you, though - it took hitting an ultra low point multiple times for me to finally attempt to scramble to get my life together. Don't worry, these things don't happen overnight. Not even a year. Not even two! God bless you if it does (and tell him to sprinkle some of that dust on me, cause I need a blessing or seven).


1. Clean room.

   Now, I grew up with a notoriously messy bedroom. I'd say ask my parents, but I'm sure the majority of you readers do not know Lisa and Craig. You're missing out, to say the least. Admittedly, I've only had a clean room the past few months. However, I have made sure to make it top priority when I wake up, before I go to bed, and everywhere in between. I have truly found having a sanctuary I love, take care of, and make my own so much more satisfactory and calming to return back to rather than wanting to go stay at a friend's place because of how messy my "home" is. I love my home now. I've put money and time into making my room look and feel exactly how I want it. I burn my sage, paulo santo, even have those (silly) crystals all the Los Angeles folks have. Mine is for decoration, but it does make me happy to look at them, so I can't completely dismiss their value. Anyway. Kids, for real, CLEAN YOUR ROOM! And listen to your mother. She's always right.


2. Skincare.

   I don't know why this is so crucial to me in my routine, morning and night. I think it's sort of a decompressing of letting all of the day out and just relaxing. It's a form of self love that is so important, and needed in everyone's life, and yet so many people disregard it. Plus, I feel it adds an air of confidence. There's something about having clean, healthy skin that enhances your mood. For me, I use Pacifica Kale Detox Deep Cleansing face wash, day and night, Thayer's Witch Hazel toner, an Olay moisturizer with SPF 15 already in there (not today, Sun!), and then the Pixi Makeup Fixing rose mist before and after makeup. At night, again, the Pacifica cleanser, and then Skin Laundry's Restoring Night Serum. I also use from time to time the Apricot scrub from St. Ives which I love, and I found this cool Charcoal and Black Sugar facial mask at a CVS which makes my face feel amazing. It's important to take time to pamper yourself and make you feel beautiful and loved. Mini doses of self care, morning and night, do wonders. I've included a full description below with links.


Morning Routine:

Pacifica Kale Detox Deep Cleansing face wash

Thayer's Witch Hazel Rose Petal toner

Olay Complete Cream All Day Moisturizer with SPF 15

Pixi Makeup Fixing rose mist


Night Routine:

Pacifica Kale Detox Deep Cleansing face wash

Skin Laundry Restoring Night Serum

Olay Complete Cream All Day Moisturizer with SPF 15



St. Ives Fresh Skin Apricot Scrub

Charcoal and Back Sugar Facial Mask



3. Walks.

   Might seem like an odd ritual, but it is so therapeutic. I don't own a car, which yes, is difficult in Los Angeles. However, this allows me to walk everywhere, which I have grown to love. I'm currently sitting at Don Francisco's Coffee in downtown, and walked here from my apartment. That walk was... unreal. It was the first time I've walked to this part of downtown before, and it was amazing to experience. Walking past all the office buildings, seeing everyone hustle around, watching the leaves lazily fall to the sidewalks... This really made me appreciate my city which I haven't done in a while. I feel walking everywhere is exceedingly more beneficial than taking an Uber or Lyft somewhere. In cars, I find myself zoning out on my phone, not looking at my surroundings and missing out on the rest of the world around me. I'm not a huge fan of working out either, so this serves as a sneaky little exercise without me realising it. I try to take a walk at least one or two times a day for clarity and inspiration. Today, I plugged my headphones in, keeping volume low so I could still hear the bustle of traffic and life, and played the playlist on Spotify, "Coffee Table Jazz." I woke up playing this playlist, and felt inspired to walk down to a new coffee store and write. Listening to this leads me to...


4. Dancing.

   I'm not a dancer in the slightest. I'm goofy, lanky, uncoordinated, but darnit, I will dance my butt off if given the chance. I dance every morning like a total idiot to whatever I've got playing. Again, it makes me feel free and loose for the day. If ever I'm in doubt, I dance it out. Alright, that was a silly catchphrase, but it's true! This morning, as I mentioned, I started out listening to "Coffee Table Jazz." I was getting ready, doing my skincare and then onto makeup, and just paused for a moment. I danced through my room, back to my bathroom, around my bedroom again, picked up my cat, Luna, danced with her (she was not a fan), and danced until I was a giggling mess on my floor. It's important, I feel, not to take yourself so damn seriously all the time. It's important to laugh at yourself and with yourself. Laughter seriously is the best medicine. So go ahead. Dance and laugh with yourself at nine in the morning while the rest of the world is either waking up, working, or just going to bed. You'll thank yourself later.


These are really the only four that I stick to most. There are other little things that keep me energized and inspired, but they are more just hobbies and not rituals. I hope you find something in here that sticks with you. Let me know what your rituals are, maybe I'll try 'em out. And if you do try any of these - let me know how it goes. I hope you stay well, friends.


- Cadence.

Today's excerpt of writing:


As I breathe you in,

you make my blackened lungs

feel clean again.


- cadence -

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